when he wants a toy, when you want to follow for when he wants to talk to us, when you want to go to the floor while the neck or vice versa ... Usually he throws himself into the ground and cries. We try not reach this point, but sometimes it's inevitable ... Then I have to take a deep breath (especially if you are in a strange place) and try to talk calmly with her and explain why we can not do or fix something, this clear, if the request is impossible. Usually we tendency to say once "no" to our children because we can only "bad habit". I early began to explain things, whether she knew it or not (Laura Gutman and recommendations Filliozat Isabelle) and now and then she surprised me with a tirade "Mom, do not stay! Pópós pigosos!" and I see that she is a sponge and is attentive to everything we say and do. So when I can, treat it, and make it wills. When I can not explain why. There is a dislike, of course, but I feel that it will assimilate their learning.
other day she took a forbidden subject. My immediate reaction was to withdraw him from the hands force (which, let us say in passing, does not usually work well: it grabs you with even more force, shriek, cry and when he finally gets free throws himself into the ground where it is until you get tired of kicking or crying ). I asked him this mo. She looked playful and challenging to me and said "nãaaaaao. I asked him again. "Noooo." I explained that the subject could leave and it could hurt so that she would like me this, please (something which I have also encouraged her to say when he wants something). And she came to me and gave it to me. She wanted to feel respected in their decision to detain or the object. And by allowing her to choose, I got to respect it and be respected.
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